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Dealing with anxiety or depression after baby


You’ll feel lots of normal emotional changes after you have a baby. You might have heard of something called the  ‘baby blues’. Signs of the baby blues include: 

  • Crying a lot and feeling teary or down in the dumps
  • Grumpy or irritable 
  • Lots of mood swings or really sudden feelings
  • Being really sensitive to everything


The baby blues should go away within a few days without treatment. Sometimes these feelings don’t start straight away, but can pop up later on. If these feelings don’t go away in a week or two then you might want to learn more about mental health problems including postnatal depression or anxiety.


This isn’t something you should get scared about. Lots of other mums go through this too! Talking to your doctor and putting a few things in place will make you more confident that you can handle everything coming your way!


These are some signs that you might need to talk to a doctor about your mental health:

  • Are you feeling sad more than you feel happy?
  • Feeling constantly exhausted or hyperactive
  • Big mood changes
  • Negative thinking all the time
  • Feeling inadequate most of the time
  • Loss of interest in things you used to enjoy
  • Changes in appetite
  • Feeling unable to cope
  • Constantly checking on your baby because of worry or anxiety
  • Withdrawing from others
  • Fears of harming your baby
  • Thoughts of harming yourself  
  • Avoiding certain places, situations or things
  • Getting a racing heart, sweating or headaches for no physical reason


This happens to lots of new parents!

Lots of mums and dads go through mental health problems like anxiety and depression during or after the baby arrives - so you’re not alone!


Asking for help shows that you care about yourself and your family and want to be a good parent.


Here’s a list of people who can help if you’re not feeling good.


And here are some extra things you can do to help yourself cope


There’s an organisation called COPMI that has heaps of great information for mums and dads who have to deal with mental health problems. 


I was scared to talk to someone at first. What if they thought I was a bad mum or wanted to take my baby away? Now I know that it’s not like that, and I have the support I need. It makes stuff so much easier to handle.”